Same-sex marriage should stay a federal law

What’s going to happen with the couples that are already married and live in a state that makes it illegal?


Ady Dennis

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Jenna Riley, Reporter

The Federal government is thinking about changing same-sex marriage back to state law instead of federal law. I am going to give you reasons why it should stay federal law.

It is going to be very hard to reverse what has already happened with this law. What if we did go back to state law and a state says, “No, it’s illegal.” What’s gonna happen with the couples that are already married and live in that state? Are they just gonna kick them out; or make them divorce?

On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court made the decision of legalizing same sex marriage. They did this because the federal law was sick and tired of it being legal in some places and illegal in other places. So they made this law for a reason.  

In an article written by Nina Totenberg, she states, “… which declared that same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry under the 14th Amendment guarantee to equal protection of the law.” The 14th Amendment goes over how “all persons born or naturalized in the United States” This says that everyone is a person and deserves to be treated equally. The 14th amendment protected same-sex marriages in the past, why are they just gonna stop now? Makes no sense. 

The Supreme Court has no good reason to make same-sex marriage a state law again other than some people weren’t happy that they were being treated normally. People who are a part of the LGBTQ+ community are still humans and deserve to be treated like everyone else, including marriage. Same-sex couples should have access to the same benefits enjoyed by heterosexual married couples. 

Marriage was originally for a man and woman, but over time that evolved. It’s been proven that heterosexual couples have more benefits with health, custody of children, protection, money, and much more. If we kept same-sex marriage a federal law and made it more than what it is today, we could make everyone equal. People don’t deserve to be treated differently just because of their sexuality. 

A website called says, “There are 1,138 benefits, rights and protections available to married couples,” heterosexual couples, “to married couples in federal law alone…:” 

 If they go back to state law for same-sex marriages, there could be uprisings, and the destroying of relationships. There are a lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community, plus the family members and friends of those members, so if there were to be a disturbance in the law and there could be lots of conflict.  

Let’s say a same-gender couple wants to get married, but the rule was changed. A lot of people would say, “Well they can move to a state where it is legal,” Now lets add family. What if their family is in that state and the closest state that allows same-sex marriage is five states away and they don’t want to move away from their family. What in the world are they supposed to do? The change of this law can ruin relationships and cause lots problems.

Some argue that this law is being pushed so hard is because same-sex marriages leads to unbalanced families because of defined gender roles.

They argue that each family member has a role. A woman, or the mother, has the role of teaching their kids how to run a household, teach their future daughters about the menstrual cycle, how to cook meals, and all the things a woman would do in a family. A man, or the father, has the role of teaching their kids how to get a job,  fix a car tire, puberty of a boy, or your typical father role. 

Two wives will not be able to teach a son all of the things a boy would need to know, because they are not a boy. Same goes for two husbands  with a daughter. The concern is that it disturbs the balance of a normal family and the things a kid would need to know for life. 

In the article,, it says, “Children hunger for their biological parents. The fact that both parents have a biological connection to the child would increase the likelihood that the parents would identify with the child and be willing to sacrifice for that child…” 

A same-sex marriage might hurt that child’s life with not having the other gender parent figure. They are in need of both parents and learn valuable lessons from both parent figures.  If a child goes through a life with gay parents, they will never know the things the other gender parent could have provided for them. 

However, a way that could be fixed is most same-sex marriages still have mother/father figures. Let’s take a man/man relationship for example. In most of these relationships, one man will take on roles traditionally assigned to women, while the other man will take the traditionally male roles. They will both take their jobs and do all they can to make a future kid feel welcomed. 

Same-sex marriage needs to stay federal legal. There is no good reason why same-sex marriages should be state law again. And if a gay couple decides to adopt a kid, that is their choice. So if you have something against it, you can choose not to enter into a same-sex marriage for yourself and respect the choices other make for themselves.